I Kissed a Frog

Not really, but according to the book I just finished, kissing frogs is the equivalent of going after your dreams, the things that make you happy and fulfilled.  The frog is the very thing holding you back, so why should you kiss it?  Because you can always transform something negative into something positive and change your life forever.

Here are a few of my favorite quotes from Kiss That Frog by Brian Tracy.

“Nothing splendid has ever been achieved except by those who dared believe that something inside of them was superior to circumstance.” —Bruce Barton

“The mind is its own place, and in itself can make a heaven of hell, a hell of heaven.” —from John Milton’s poem “Paradise Lost”

“There is no failure except in no longer trying.  There is no defeat except from within, no really insurmountable barrier save our own inherent weakness of purpose.” —Orison Swett Marden

The final quote I want to share comes from a middle grade novel I just finished reading called A Snicker of Magic by Natalie Lloyd.  It’s funny how once you start focusing on an idea, the more it shows up in your life in different places.

“It’s as simple and difficult as that.  Sad memories don’t just come in ice cream, you know.  Everything you touch, everything you smell, everything you taste, every picture you see—all of that has the potential to call up a sad memory.  You can’t choose what comes up first.  But you can choose to replace it with something good.  I choose to think on the good parts.”

May positive thoughts bloom in your mind instead of weeds 🙂


I Am Responsible

I’m reading a lot of books these days, trying to stay warm 🙂  One of them is Kiss That Frog: 12 Great Ways to Turn Negatives into Positives in Your Life and Work by Brian Tracy.  He tackles all the layers of self that actually hold us back.  One concept that both intrigues and mystifies me is the idea of taking responsibility for everything that happens in your life.

He challenges you to take any event, especially ones you feel unhappy about, and say to yourself, “I am responsible.”  In doing that, you are less likely to place blame on others, which creates negative energy that just stews inside of you.  You acknowledge that at least some part of you created the situation you’re in.  When you do that, it’s easier to let go and move on.  It’s challenging because who wants to admit they were wrong? But it is also surprisingly freeing.

The part that gets me is that it seems like there are some events in life that are simply out of our control that we did not expect, ask for, or deserve.  How do you take responsibility for those things?  In most cases we can usually admit to being at least 1 or 2 % responsible.  But the point is not to point fingers or place blame, even at yourself.  It’s to take control of your life and move forward.  We can always accept responsibility for how situations make us feel and how we react to them.  And for particularly difficult situations where we don’t feel at all responsible, we can also move forward through forgiveness.

I’ve always wondered how victims of violent crimes for instance have been able to forgive their aggressors.  It seems like forgiving such acts would be letting them off the hook for doing something wrong.  I was blown away when the author talked about how forgiveness is primarily a selfish act.  Meaning, it is something you do for yourself to find peace in a situation so you can move on.  After all, staying angry at someone hurts you more than it hurts them.

It’s amazing the kinds of things we go through in life, each of us living out our own unique story.  Sometimes it takes a lot of courage just to face the day.  But we are no doubt creating our own reality by everything we think, feel, and do.  And if we can manage to break through those barriers from the past that are holding us back, just imagine what we can become.  The very best YOU possible.

“Each day a new world opens itself up to you.  And all the worlds you are…gather into one world called You where You decide what each world and each story and each ending will finally be.”  –Jacqueline Woodson, author of Brown Girl Dreaming


New Year’s Resolution: Allowing

Coming up with a word for the year feels more organic and modern, but what about the tried and true New Year’s Resolution?  I’m not opposed to it, but sometimes it feels like more of an expectation and leads to even more multi-tasking.

Then there’s the wisdom of SARK, my favorite inspirational writer.  She recently introduced the concept of “allowing.”  Nothing particularly new here, but it’s the idea of letting things be rather than making things happen.  You can allow people to have different communication styles, different beliefs, and different ways of interacting with the world without trying to change them in any way.  You can even allow people to drive differently than you without getting upset.  This can be especially hard if someone just cut you off, but still worth the effort.  After all, it keeps you more relaxed, which in the end, makes for a better day, and isn’t that what we’re all striving for?

So I decided to make my new year’s resolution one of allowing.  It doesn’t mean I can’t still take action towards my goals, it just means that I stop trying to control the outcomes.  Often when you stop trying to control, you find that things flow more smoothly.  You can focus more on finding solutions rather than focusing on the problem.  For instance, just today, my water was shut off for several hours unexpectedly right when I had a class to get to.  My initial response was annoyance and even anger.  But when I allowed for the fact that my complex had a job to do, then I could focus more on finding solutions.  1) Use the community bathroom to get ready.  2)  Communicate my need for a telephone call rather than a flier in my mailbox when it’s short notice.

Whatever resolution you choose for this new year, consider “allowing” rather than trying to force the changes.  You just might be amazed at the results!

“You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude
toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather
than allowing it to master you.”   –Brian Tracy, author of Kiss That Frog!: 12 Great Ways to Turn Negatives into Positives in Your Life and Work