The Reality of Realizing a Dream

As I mentioned in a previous post, I went to Italy last fall.  It was a monumental trip in so many ways.  Venice was our last stop, and of course, I couldn’t go home without riding the gondola.  Sure, it’s hokey and touristy, not to mention expensive.  BUT it’s also the quintessential Italian experience.  Right?

More importantly, it was all part of the dream I had of one day going to Italy.  It was the equivalent of crossing the finish line in a race.

But what does it mean to actually accomplish a dream?  Is it all that it’s cracked up to be or do you sometimes get to that point and think: hmm, ok, well that was cool, what’s next?  I think that’s why everyone says it’s so important to be in the present moment and enjoy the journey.  That way, when you reach that actual moment of realization, acclaim, success, you don’t deflate.

Allow me to take you on my journey to realizing a lifelong dream and show you what I discovered in the process.

My husband and I decided a morning ride would be just as romantic and quaint as an evening ride, especially since it costs twice as much to ride after dark–and forget about being serenaded, that’s a whole extra charge.  Our hotel recommended a trip around Rialto Bridge and told us we might have to haggle for a fair price.  We found a dock with gondoliers advertising, but decided to check around, since their ride seemed a little short for the price.  But as it turned out, other spots were even busier and no less reasonable in price or time length.  We headed back to our original spot only to watch the gondoliers receive a telephone call and dash away.  What now?

We entered a busy square and found a super tall–I mean gargantuan–male gondolier waving his big hands around and calling out his services.  Well, I knew right away, this was our guy.  He had a friendly face and despite a small concern as to whether he would fit under all the bridges, he seemed the most likely candidate for the job.  I imagined he could steer us anywhere with those hands.  Of course, as soon as we chose him, another couple swooped in like a couple of pigeons, not exactly to steal our guy, but rather to try to get in on the action by sharing a boat and saving some cash.  This is common procedure and even recommended in guidebooks, but I was NOT having it that day.  I mean, this was my shining moment of glory.  I was not planning to share it with a couple of strangers.  Plus there’s only one love seat.  How do you have a romantic moment with other tourists?  Anyway, I waved them away, and the gondolier didn’t seem to mind, so off we went!  But I did feel a little sorry for the couple we left behind, who actually seemed pretty normal and well-intentioned.

Getting into the boat was a feat in and of itself.  And then getting situated.  The gondolier wanted us on certain sides to maintain the balance, but all we could think was: What about our photo ops?  If you know my husband, you know there will be many of those, they need to be just right, and they cannot be dictated by the needs of the person steering the boat even if he’s just trying to do his job and keep us from capsizing or crashing 😉  Well, we got it squared away.  As I say, we had THEE GONDOLIER who was willing to do whatever it took to make us happy and get paid.  So we’re bouncing around trying to pose ourselves and feeling quite antsy and truthfully not really enjoying the moment or noticing much of the scenery except in terms of what would make a great shot.  We reach the Grand Canal, the place to see and be seen, and truly wear ourselves out with photos.

But FINALLY, we settled down, relaxed, and absorbed the sights and sounds of our surroundings.  We cuddled, politely kissed, sailed under bridges, cruised down secluded passageways, listened as our guy chatted about history and architecture while we admired the ambience, and savored every delicious minute.  And even still, it was over too soon.  But again, our gondolier did not rest until he got a few final perfect shots of us in the boat, per our request.

So how did I feel after stepping out of the gondola?  Elated, exhausted, perplexed, complete, and secretly a little bit disappointed although I couldn’t pinpoint exactly why.  I’m certain I built up the expectation in my head to a staggering degree that could never quite measure up to any experience in real-time.  But to be fair, I only had romantic, Hollywood movies as a model.  Anything would pale in comparison 😉

So was I totally 100 percent gratified afterwards?  No.  But was it still worth it?  Yes.  And here is why.

Riding in the gondola was a symbolic part of my journey and I couldn’t really consider the trip complete without having experienced this moment. I think for me, it was about honoring the occasion.  It was THE EVENT to mark the rite of passage.  To say I came, I saw, I did everything there was to do in Italy including the gondola ride.  I could then go home feeling certain that I’d accomplished my lifelong dream to go to Italy and discover my roots.

So am I saying don’t bother going after a big dream in case it doesn’t live up to your every expectation?  Of course not.  Go after your dream with confidence!  After all, my trip to Italy as a whole was everything I hoped it would be and more.  But when you reach the TOP, if the view isn’t quite what you expected, no big deal.  It’s the getting there that’s the real prize.  You might even find that the very thing that had been thrashing around, unsettled, in your heart, becomes still.  And whatever comes next, because there will certainly be new mountains to climb, you can hold this moment of accomplishment in your mind as a testament that dreams really do come true.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Practicing Patience: Favorite Inch by Favorite Inch

watercolor collage painting

Let’s start with an exercise, shall we?  “Breathe in trust.  Breathe out fear.  Breathe in trust.  Breathe out fear.”

What does this teach us?  To calm down.  To be in the moment.  To practice PATIENCE.  But why?

Making art is a lengthy process.  I should know.  This particular piece took 10+ hours and several class periods to complete.  At times, it looked so abstract that I feared nothing would come of it.  But as fellow artists know, once you’re in the middle of a project, you only have two choices.  Quit to avoid failing (which actually translates to an automatic failure) or continue on the path and see how it turns out.  I chose the second option because I’m just stubborn like that 😉

The process of watercolor collage painting involves dyeing handmade paper using liquid watercolor paint.  Then you have to let each piece dry.  Meanwhile you sketch your scene.  Then you painstakingly glue each colored piece to your paper using matte gel medium.  You can’t be sure if you’ve colored enough pieces for each section.  Also be aware that your hands will become dyed and glued very easily!  All you can do is trust the process.

What can I say?  The end result was satisfying.  But is that always the case?  Sometimes you reach your destination after a lot of hard work to find a breathtaking sight.  Other times, you feel discouraged by your work.  You may also feel like it goes unappreciated.  But patience and perseverance are always the keys.

“Knowing trees, I understand the meaning of patience. Knowing grass, I can appreciate persistence.” — Hal Borland

If you don’t feel up to it, try this exercise:  “Find your favorite inch.”  I learned about this at a recent workshop at the Mazza Museum for children’s illustration in Findlay, OH.  One of the speakers mentioned that when you’re feeling down about your art, search for your favorite part inside a piece of art.  You can also use this exercise when viewing art at a museum or gallery as a learning tool.  There must be one part you’re satisfied with in your work.  It could be an interesting line or angle, a character’s expression, a unique color.  Something is always working in a painting.  It is your job to find it, which can be extremely difficult when self evaluating.  Once you identify your sweet spot, work from that.  Think of it as a stepping stone.  Achievement always begins with a single step.  In this case, a single brush stroke.

Let’s review:  Breathe in Trust; breathe out fear.  Practice patience.  Find your favorite inch.

And when all hope is lost, just remember:

“Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.” — Harriet Tubman

As the new year approaches, keep reaching!

 

Mindwork: My Art Exhibition at Troy Library

Greetings 🙂  I’m excited to report that my artwork will be showing at the Troy Public Library for the month of October.  It was a lot of work putting together, but I’m very pleased with how it turned out.  It’s a combination of work, some adult and some children’s illustration.  If you’re in the area, you should come check it out!

I’ve been talking a lot about bucket lists lately.  Speaking of which, I can cross one item off my list.  In a recent post, I offered a tour of Denise Fleming’s Story Park, which features her work at the Toledo Library.  I mentioned that it’s a dream of mine to have my work displayed in a library.  I guess some dreams do come true…especially when you make them happen!  What dream will you make happen?

Math Equation for Dreamers

I know what you’re thinking. Math on an art blog? The answer is YES!

This is more of a life equation. I read about it several months ago on Bethany Butzer’s blog and it has stuck with me ever since.

Manifestation = (Intention + Action) – Attachment

What does this mean?  Let’s break it down.

Intention– the deepest desires of your heart; goals; wishes; dreams; what you want in life

Action– the movements you make toward your dream

Attachment– hoping for a specific outcome

For me, intentions are pretty easy.  Actions are harder, especially when I encounter my biggest roadblock–MYSELF.  Letting go of attachment is by far the most challenging.  After all, isn’t that why we are taking all these actions toward our intention?  But just remember, letting go will set you free.  Not only that, but it will open up the doorway to possibilities that you never dreamed of.  So basically, do the work and let the universe take care of the rest.

That’s all for today.  Class dismissed 😉

Visualizing Your Dreams

“Visualize this thing that you want, see it, feel it, believe in it. Make your mental blue print, and begin to build.” –Robert Collier

Here I am pinpointing two of my dreams: to publish a book and visit Italy.

While in Columbus, I visited the warehouse located at 400 West Rich Street, which houses several art/design studios.  It’s a unique concept in which art is helping to revive an area of the city.  I would love to be part of the same effort in Detroit.

I also visited The Book Loft, a local bookstore in German Village.  There are a total of 32 rooms to wind your way through, but somehow I found the children’s section.  I would love to see my own books here, too 🙂

As you know, I’ve been reading SARK’s book “Making Your Creative Dreams Real.” One of my favorite chapters is “The World of Yes.” Why? Because it’s so positive! She gives new meaning to the word love.

Letting

Our

Visions

Emerge

How can we do that? By visualizing!  When we visualize each step of our dream, we’re more likely to make it a reality.  SARK says, “We visualize our creative dreams and some part of us says YES.  I can do that…  It can happen…  We can build it…”  So start visualizing and say YES! to your dream.

My husband and I spotted another bucket list in Montreal!  It turns out people are dreaming all over the world.  Check it out

MicroMOVEments

Does this scene look familiar?  It should 😉  This landscape art is based on the famous painting by Georges Seurat entitled A Sunday Afternoon on the Island of La Grande Jatte.  James T. Mason is the sculptor and creator of this garden.  I recently visited The Topiary Park in Columbus, OH.  Talk about walking into a painting!

While here, I could have just enjoyed the scenery and posed for photos.  But I also decided to begin my practice of microMOVEments.  What exactly are those?  Think of them as baby steps towards your ultimate goal.  A way of building your dream brick by brick.  The concept was coined by SARK, author of Make Your Creative Dreams Real, which I mentioned in a previous post.  She describes such movements as small bursts of energy or tiny actions that can be completed in as little as 5 minutes.  If you’re one of the millions of busy people in the world or if you have problems with procrastination, you should try this out.

Here I am completing a microMOVEment by sketching at the park while on vacation.

And here is the result of my efforts 🙂

pen and ink

pen and ink

pen and ink

Just remember, Seurat’s painting wasn’t created in a day.  But step by step, your dream will manifest.  Starting now!  What microMOVEment will you complete today?

The Power of Dreaming

Make Your Creative Dreams Real
by SARK

Greetings dreamers!

I found this book serendipitously at the library.  It seemed to be calling out to me 😉  I would venture to say it is calling out to all of you as well.  Anyone who is a dreamer.  And we all are…or at least we should be.  And here is why:

SARK‘s book suggests that the world needs more people dreaming and living out their dreams, even partially.  It doesn’t have to be for money.  It doesn’t have to be big. And your dreams are free to change and adapt constantly!  But we need to dream because dreaming creates more energy, which directly benefits th world around us.

“We are all energized by creative dreams.”  –SARK

So where will you begin?

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