My 200th Post: The Good Things Jar


Happy Friday! ¬†We made it ūüėČ ¬†I’m excited to announce this is my 200th post on this blog. ¬†That is quite an accomplishment, I must say. ¬†It signifies a commitment to my writing practice and to you, my dear readers. ¬†It’s important to celebrate all those milestones, no matter how big or small they seem in the moment.

One way we can do that is to create a Good Things Jar.  I first saw this concept posted on Facebook, but there are many different versions of it.  In fact, a friend of mine and fellow blogger recently posted about The Happiness Jar, a kind of gratitude jar, which was introduced by writer Elizabeth Gilbert.

The Good Things Jar helps you focus on something good that happened each week. ¬†You write it down on a slip of paper and place it in your jar. ¬†Then, at the end of the year, maybe even on New Year’s Eve, you can open the jar and read about all the good things that happened in 2017.

Alternatively, if you don’t have time or space for a jar, you can simply make a list and keep track that way, but it might not be as much fun. ¬†I realized I was actually doing this last year when I kept a list of “miracles” (big and small) that occurred to me or someone else I cared about. ¬†This was in response to my word of the year.

But whatever you decide to do, keeping track of your successes, what you are grateful for, and the general positives in your life is guaranteed to be uplifting.

May you have a year filled with many good things!

The Power of Our Heart Vibrations

Let me just dive in! Our heart is more powerful than our brain. Did you know this? 60 times greater, according to the article “How to Change Our Self-Limiting Programs”¬†on Uplift.¬†Powerful stuff! Both organs vibrate and generate energy as part of the electromagnetic field that makes up our body. But the heart has a far greater amplitude. And with the heart, the vibes are always positive and far-reaching. So why not just follow these good vibrations?

Our brain is running unconscious programs that we learned since birth. These vibes can get in the way of our happiness…if we let them. By thinking negative thoughts, we attract negative energy into our lives. This may manifest as a negative event or illness. We may also attract negative people into our lives. People that are simply reflecting the same energy that we put out there. The more positive people and experiences are vibrating at a higher frequency. But how do we make that same leap?

It’s simple really. Just follow your heart. More specifically: follow your heart’s vibration. The best way to do this is to find your center. Be calm. Go inside yourself. Stay in the present moment. That is where you find your divine bliss. Ultimate connection. Creativity. Universal spirit. Love.

Stop analyzing, over-thinking, worrying. Just be. That’s when you get tuned into the right frequency. The heart frequency. It can take you places, manifest your dreams, and even heal you.

Seem too simple? Not convinced? Try this experiment by molecular biologist Bruce Lipton. Take two guitars tuned the same and pluck the A string on #1. Then watch #2, which also vibrates. All because they are tuned to the same frequency. We can train our brains to do the same by thinking positive thoughts. Or go a step further and follow the stronger and truer vibration of our hearts.

So start harmonizing your thoughts.  Tune in to a different, more positive broadcast. Change your story. Attract what you want out of life. Let the vibrations of your heart create your reality. Starting NOW.

“People will leave the old story when they see a new story working. Every individual who changes their own story, is changing the vibrational environment within which we all live.” –Bruce Lipton


I Am Responsible

I’m reading a lot of books these days, trying to stay warm ūüôā ¬†One of them is Kiss That Frog: 12 Great Ways to Turn Negatives into Positives in Your Life and Work by Brian Tracy. ¬†He tackles all the layers of self that actually hold us back. ¬†One concept that both intrigues and mystifies me is the idea of taking responsibility for everything that happens in your life.

He challenges you to take any event, especially ones you feel unhappy about, and say to yourself,¬†“I am responsible.” ¬†In doing that, you are less likely to place blame on others, which creates negative energy that just stews inside of you. ¬†You acknowledge that at least some part of you created the situation you’re in. ¬†When you do that, it’s easier to let go and move on. ¬†It’s challenging because who wants to admit they were wrong? But it is also surprisingly freeing.

The part that gets me is that it seems like there are some events in life that are simply out of our control that we did not expect, ask for, or deserve. ¬†How do you take responsibility for those things? ¬†In most cases we can usually admit to being at least 1 or 2 % responsible. ¬†But the point is not to point fingers or place blame, even at yourself. ¬†It’s to take control of your life and move forward. ¬†We can always accept responsibility for how situations make us feel and how we react to them. ¬†And for particularly difficult situations where we don’t feel at all responsible, we can also move forward through forgiveness.

I’ve always wondered how victims of violent crimes for instance have been able to forgive their aggressors. ¬†It seems like forgiving such acts would be letting them off the hook for doing something wrong. ¬†I was blown away when the author talked about how forgiveness is primarily a selfish act. ¬†Meaning, it is something you do for yourself to find peace in a situation so you can move on. ¬†After all, staying angry at someone hurts you more than it hurts them.

It’s amazing the kinds of things we go through in life, each of us living out our own unique story. ¬†Sometimes it takes a lot of courage just to face the day. ¬†But we are no doubt creating our own reality by everything we think, feel, and do. ¬†And if we can manage to break through those barriers from the past that are holding us back, just imagine what we can become. ¬†The very best YOU possible.

“Each day a new world opens itself up to you.¬† And all the worlds you are…gather into one world called You where You decide what each world and each story and each ending will finally be.” ¬†–Jacqueline Woodson, author of Brown Girl Dreaming


New Year’s Resolution: Allowing

Coming up with a word for the year¬†feels more organic and modern, but what about the tried and true New Year’s Resolution?¬† I’m not opposed to it, but sometimes it feels like more of an expectation and leads to even more multi-tasking.

Then there’s the wisdom of SARK, my favorite inspirational writer.¬† She recently introduced the concept of “allowing.”¬† Nothing particularly new here, but it’s the idea of letting things be rather than making things happen.¬† You can allow people to have different communication styles, different beliefs, and different ways of interacting with the world without trying to change them in any way.¬† You can even allow people to drive differently than you without getting upset.¬† This can be especially hard if someone just cut you off, but still worth the effort.¬† After all, it keeps you more relaxed, which in the end, makes for a better day, and isn’t that what we’re all striving for?

So I decided to make my new year’s resolution one of allowing.¬† It doesn’t mean I can’t still take action towards my goals, it just means that I stop trying to control the outcomes.¬†¬†Often when you stop trying to control, you find that things flow more smoothly.¬† You can focus more on finding solutions rather than focusing on the problem.¬† For instance, just today, my water was shut off for several hours unexpectedly right when I had a¬†class to get to.¬† My initial response was annoyance and even anger.¬† But when I allowed for the fact that¬†my complex¬†had a job to do, then I could focus more on finding solutions.¬† 1) Use the community¬†bathroom to get ready.¬† 2)¬† Communicate my need for a telephone call rather than a¬†flier in my mailbox when it’s short notice.

Whatever resolution you choose for this new year, consider “allowing”¬†rather than trying to force the changes.¬† You just might be amazed at the results!

“You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude
toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather
than allowing it to master you.‚Ä̬†¬† –Brian Tracy, author of Kiss That Frog!: 12 Great Ways to Turn Negatives into Positives in Your Life and Work